"I trusted him, still he did so." "I could never believe she could do cheat me like that!" "I had faith in her. She destroyed every bit of it!!"
We often come across such heart breaking situations.
It is bad enough when a stranger or foe betrays you, but when it is The "Someone" whom we pictured our "Perfect" companion, friend, mate, sibling or better half it hurts more. It might feel like you were taken advantage of, cheated, deceived, humiliated, despised, back stabbed. The pain and agony is too much to bear. We feel like everything has ended, our world is scattered and shattered. Suddenly we feel helpless, as if someone has cut our hands. The Someone becomes the most hated person. We can't stand his sight, can't hear his name and moreover the vengeance makes it impossible to forget him. our situation becomes that of a toothless lion. You can't fight the person, if you do there's more fighting, you end up getting more hurt.
In some time we forget all what happened if not forgive him.
But, it is nearly impossible for us to be betrayed, cheated and back stabbed if we did not trust the "Someone" in the first place. The reason that it's so heart breaking is that we never expected it to happen. It wasn't meant to occur. Such a thing could only take place because of someone's deliberately hurtful behavior, their intended intentions, their own personal weakness, their carelessness. Betrayal blindsides us, shaking the very foundations of our world of belief. We portray the betrayer as the devil in sheep's clothes. Betrayal comes as a tsunami, a volcano of emotions. The initial phase is most painful. Bitterness and anger is the most common reaction. Until you yourself don't accept the situation, mentally prepare yourself, your wounds won't heal. Rebuilding your trust, gaining your lost confidence can be the toughest challenge. If you hold on and don't let go, it will only hurt you more.
"Our trust is lost, wounds are deep..
we see the person, the betrayer as cheap..
either we can smile and let go, or hold on and weep..
let your trust re build, your confidence reap..
then only you can have a peaceful night's sleep..!! "
When we trust a person, we’re not afraid to be goofy and quirky. We share our ambitions, vision, dreams, joys and sorrows with that person.
Deep inside we are vulnerable yet we have the confidence to take risks. It is the faith in that person that makes him so valuable. It is this trust only that makes the person special, with whom we cherish our time, share and spread happiness, love and are loved back. The more deeper the wound, the stronger was the bond. When our trust is broken, we become more self conscious, afraid and hesitant to trust someone again. But if your relationship is true, trust should be re-established. Forgiving and forgetting is the toughest part. Many a times hurting a person is not deliberate. It just happens. Every time it's not in our hands. The relationships that survive the waves of betrayal and disharmony often emerge stronger and more memorable than ever. So, the inevitable decision is yours. Move on or re build your relation..!
"At the end of the day it's not the number of time you fell that matters. What matters is how many you times you stood up and smiled!!"
We often come across such heart breaking situations.
It is bad enough when a stranger or foe betrays you, but when it is The "Someone" whom we pictured our "Perfect" companion, friend, mate, sibling or better half it hurts more. It might feel like you were taken advantage of, cheated, deceived, humiliated, despised, back stabbed. The pain and agony is too much to bear. We feel like everything has ended, our world is scattered and shattered. Suddenly we feel helpless, as if someone has cut our hands. The Someone becomes the most hated person. We can't stand his sight, can't hear his name and moreover the vengeance makes it impossible to forget him. our situation becomes that of a toothless lion. You can't fight the person, if you do there's more fighting, you end up getting more hurt.
In some time we forget all what happened if not forgive him.
But, it is nearly impossible for us to be betrayed, cheated and back stabbed if we did not trust the "Someone" in the first place. The reason that it's so heart breaking is that we never expected it to happen. It wasn't meant to occur. Such a thing could only take place because of someone's deliberately hurtful behavior, their intended intentions, their own personal weakness, their carelessness. Betrayal blindsides us, shaking the very foundations of our world of belief. We portray the betrayer as the devil in sheep's clothes. Betrayal comes as a tsunami, a volcano of emotions. The initial phase is most painful. Bitterness and anger is the most common reaction. Until you yourself don't accept the situation, mentally prepare yourself, your wounds won't heal. Rebuilding your trust, gaining your lost confidence can be the toughest challenge. If you hold on and don't let go, it will only hurt you more.
"Our trust is lost, wounds are deep..
we see the person, the betrayer as cheap..
either we can smile and let go, or hold on and weep..
let your trust re build, your confidence reap..
then only you can have a peaceful night's sleep..!! "
When we trust a person, we’re not afraid to be goofy and quirky. We share our ambitions, vision, dreams, joys and sorrows with that person.
Deep inside we are vulnerable yet we have the confidence to take risks. It is the faith in that person that makes him so valuable. It is this trust only that makes the person special, with whom we cherish our time, share and spread happiness, love and are loved back. The more deeper the wound, the stronger was the bond. When our trust is broken, we become more self conscious, afraid and hesitant to trust someone again. But if your relationship is true, trust should be re-established. Forgiving and forgetting is the toughest part. Many a times hurting a person is not deliberate. It just happens. Every time it's not in our hands. The relationships that survive the waves of betrayal and disharmony often emerge stronger and more memorable than ever. So, the inevitable decision is yours. Move on or re build your relation..!
"At the end of the day it's not the number of time you fell that matters. What matters is how many you times you stood up and smiled!!"
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